When you are going to do something, preparation should be on the forefront of your thoughts. If you want to do something properly take the time to prepare for it so you will have a better time and wont feel inadequate about it. First of all, as most know if you want to have sex and there is no birth control then you must prepare for the situation by going to the store and getting condoms.
If you want to experiment with BDSM, it is the same thing you must prepare for it. If you want to start lightly with it, then of course, there is spanking. Prepare for it by first getting the item that you will be using to spank your lover with. Second take it and hit it on your thigh to see what intensity it offers. This will teach you a lot about what you will be using and what you won’t be using.
If you want to turn up the heat a bit and want to experiment with wax, then buy a few different types of candles and burn them. Then slowly practice drizzling the wax off the candle onto a plate. This of course will give you an idea of which candles will be easier to drizzle and which more or less drop. Then it is also best if you try and use the candle that you find to drizzle on your skin. This will give let you know what heights you can be at with the heat intensity of the candle wax. Note wax is hot and it can burn if drizzled too close to the skin for first timers. Take your burning candle and at about 24 inches above your thigh drizzle some and feel the heat intensity. Now slowly move it closer to your skin. This will give you at what height is best. Also, to reduce heat to your lover use your hand as a deflector of the wax so it hits your hand first and then to your lover. Best places to drizzle wax, in my opinion of course is the back, the breasts, the thighs, the butt and I like to do a controlled drizzle about 3 inches above the clit. I enjoy pulling the wax off, especially when I have drizzled a lot in an area that cakes together and it can have a great sensation on the person that was receiving it.
Preparation makes it more fun and enjoyable and I will add more to the list of things to do to prepare for a fun and safe time.
Preparation part 2 – The Where
Now that we discussed preparation of some of the play things, there should also be some consideration of preparation for the fun place. Now look you know as well as I do that Mommy and Daddy cannot be playing spanking when the little ones just went to bed without someone opening the door and going mommy, “Why is daddy spanking you? Were you a bad girl?” So with that why not make a preparation of fun an adventure.
All across the country there are the seedy motels that you pass by and wonder how they are in business. Hey guess what, that would be a great location to have a spanking good time at. Leave the higher priced hotels for the more romantic and door opening adventures which is a bridge I will cross later. Babysitter, a light supper and wham bam spank you ma’am, you have a new fun time. It will be a new adventure, that when you pass by that little motel, you will put a smile on your face.
So preparation would be find the motel closest to you and rent it out before you leave for your date. This way you don’t have your mojo lost, because your lover is sitting waiting on you to pay the 3 toothed wonder for a room. Also after renting the room go into it and check out the way things are setup and what is in it. This will give you a little confidence when you enter on your date, as you have an idea of what to expect. And if it is a real dump, walk your lover to the room and blindfold them for the whole time. That way it will make it easier especially if you blindfold them in your driveway before you leave.
Preparation #3 – Timing
Okay so now we have prepared for what we want to do and we have prepared for where to have this rendezvous, so what’s left? Well the timing has to be one that you both are willing to be in the mood. This little couples tryst can happen at any time but it will be best when you have this fixed. So suggestion would be either talk about doing it on a specific day or find out if that special person wants a surprise. I think the surprise is the best but it takes a lot of forethought about preparing for it. If you have kids you need to have it setup that there is a babysitter to take care of the little ones. If no kids a lot easier, but you are not out of the woods yet.
So let’s deal with the easier one first. Your special one wants to know about it, best to figure yourself if this is the case. If they want to know about it then pick a day and believe me the ones who knows about it gets their sexual mojo started. Because of the fact they know it is going to happen and if you spend some time a few days before teasing about it, then it will make it more exciting. You have to be coy and throw hints that they are going to be put in ecstasy and that they will yearn for it to happen every week. Build it up, get it percolating so that it is as exciting for you as it is for them. This is especially good for both as it helps to pull you out of the work dreary day.
Now if you are going to do this as a surprise then that is more fun for you at the beginning but your lover will enjoy it as much as you do, if not more. Do this one especially if your lover is a control freak and we all know who they are. What you will have to do is keep a pulse on their day though and see where they are at. Without a sexual innuendo, try and make their day better. Also, have an understanding if your lover is a female where they are in their cycle, so you will know whether there will be play time or if it will end up massage and snuggle time if you don’t. I find it is always good to ask about their day around the lunch time frame and see where they may be at emotionally. Press that I Love You multiple times and how much they mean to you, as it will help make their day, but mean it. It will also make it easier to move into raunchy steamy blood pulsing sex in a motel also.
If you find yourself at the point where you have prepared and they don’t seem like they are in the mood, then your preparation will pay off. Why you ask? Well you had went and set the motel room up with only the lamp on. And have put on soft music that was not too loud that the rooms next to you would complain and also had put all the toys you want to play with in there. Take a moment also to put some bath oils in the bathroom so that you can move into that magic moment with a little subtlety of a nice bath. Also, a full nude body massage or in a little outfit you have chosen (lingerie, bra and panty set or my favorite a sexxxy smile) can also be a helpful starter <Grin>.
Preparation 4 At Home
Okay so there is the point when you cannot do an elaborate outing. Well that is the time you prepare for more of a sensual time. Look especially for fellows, there is the time of the month when most women cannot embrace the full on sexual time, or you are not into it or both. So that is when you should be sensual.
So this is the time to give a massage.
Prepare for a sensual moment. Setup some candles, or if you don’t have any candles go get some. Don’t scrimp on the candles, get some real good ones that have a nice smell. Such smells as Vanilla or a jasmine are good ones to use.
Prepare for it also by getting some nice soft music. Go ahead and either get a radio on a soft station, as a good jazz station or a CD that plays soft music. Test the CD out to make sure that the whole CD is soft and not a few songs on it. As you want to take your time and give a good massage, at least one that lasts more than your sexual outing. Take your time and flow with the music.
Also to prepare for this, get a good lotion for a massage nearby. Set all of this up and try to use the lotion by yourself. Picture you have your loved one stretched on the bed, and you want to get some more lotion to add to the smoothness, this is where you will see how cumbersome it may be. Best lotion is one that has a pump to it. Also, check to see what it smells like, as you want something soothing. Jasmine is a smell that offers relaxation, but I am not saying it has to be Jasmine.
Prepare yourself to lightly speak to your lover while giving this awesome relaxing massage. Test out a few sentences that you can softly whisper in their ear. Tell them that you love them. Tell them how much they mean to you and always tell them how much you need them in your life. Explain things that they have done for you that has made your life more enjoyable.
Also this is a great way that when sex can be enjoyed, it is a way to get things going.
Okay, have you ever reread something you wrote and say to yourself, “I forgot the simplest thing”. In the preparation section, Preparation for good sex is being healthy. Preparation should start with being healthy and it is up to you to be healthy. You must take care of yourself, eat the right foods, exercise and try and keep your stress down. It is up to all of us to do that and healthy is not irritating your lover. So try and not irritate them or let them irritate you.
Go Play and Have Fun Safe Sex, well for this one, Fun Safe Sensual time